Playing electric 99% of the time, 9-42 and 10-46.
If my fret hand finger tips start feeling sore, it mostly means I am squeezing again, which I have finally gotten away from mostly.
Sometimes with something new or difficult I find myself squeezing because I am "trying too hard".
Big bends and a lot of them get me sometimes but for the most part I have some feeling of callus / hardness to the tips and usually dont have issues.
My play on maple necks has become much smoother as well.
I try to fret right at the fret, but some of the fingers-on-fretboard dance is bound to be on the wood.