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DirtySteve
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Thanks for asking. I haven't said anything because it's not good and I don't know how to feel about it. In a nut shell, my Mom isn't doing good. As you may know, she had a stroke almost 3 years ago (next month) and she was doing great with therapy and getting most of her mobility back, she moved in with my Brother and his wife in Florida and everything was going good until a month or 2 ago when for no apparent reason she just started to go in reverse. She's very weak and can barely walk now, she can't dress herself anymore and she can't even go to the bathroom by herself anymore.
She now has in home care, some that comes 4 or 5 days a week to dress her, make her breakfast and lunch, help her shower, take her to her appointment, etc... whatever she needs, but it's only during the day so at night and on the weekends my brother or his wife has to do it. They both work full time and have a severely disabled 20 something year old child that needs constant care so they already have their hands full. It's not a good situation that's it's getting worse and no one knows what to do about it.
My sister in law is a f'king b'tch, I hate her, I've always hated her! I don't understand what my brother ever saw in her.I can't stand her attitude now towards my mom, she barely talks to her and get pissy whenever my mom needs her help with something. It's starting to affect their marriage and it's not going to get any better. Then she's trying to lay a guilt trip on me for being up here in TN and not being there to help because "she has so much on her already", but what she doesn't seem to remember was that I was here with her when she had the stroke, She had her house and excellent doctors and rehab up here. I was living in the basement at the time because I had moved up here to help take care of my dad and when he died in January that same year I was asked to stay so I was still here. Then when she had her stoke I was thinking, well, that's why I was meant to still be here so I was ready to take on whatever she need from me, I had resolved that that was my purpose now and I thought that was the way it was supposed to be. That is up until one day when they told me that my mom was moving in with them in Florida and they were going to have a new house built and I had 2 or 3 weeks to find a place to live. Nobody asked me what I thought, they just did it.
So now, I honestly don't know how to feel about it. I can't move down there, I can't afford to live in Florida and I don't trust the VA down there, they already tried to let me die once. Not only that but I HATE Florida, it's too hot and humid, I have way more pain and health issues when I go down there, there's too many people and so much traffic it's a nightmare. With my Anxiety issues it's not the place for me to be. If I move back down there I truly believe my days would be limited. I just don't know what I can do.
Sorry to go on so much, it's the reason I haven't talked about it yet. I tried to keep it short, but it's hard to do.
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