Thinking Maybe Its Time To Hang It Up:

Do what heals you, brother Robert.
Good luck, be safe and happy; my best to you and your family.

We have all seen you push too hard and start to burn out or have health issues.
Some of us have chimed in at times to "take it easy, take it easy, dont let the sound of your own wheels make you crazy".
Maybe give the song a listen or 2; I know you dig some Eagles.

Takes some breaths of fresh air; enjoy the free open space on the bike, go out for a quiet lunch with the wife and even watch the hummingbirds for a bit.
Tap the brakes; back off the throttle, you dont need to rev on the red line all the time, do you?.

The music is inside of you; I think it is only a matter of time before you must answer that call.
It is part of what makes you, - you.
Purely speculation on my part, of course.

Make coming back to it a Fun Hobby - with a Little paid benefit - like a fill in without a long commitment.
Maybe this puts it all in a different perspective - where you dont feel you HAVE TO push so damn hard.

Either way, be well my friend,
John
 
Gahr said:
Please don't leave the TTR, Robert.

I know you are not a guy who does anything by halves, but isn't finding a band that plays purely for fun an option? I mean, gigs are the coolest, but enjoying the music is what it is really about, it is for me at least.
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I don't know, Gahr, i've been playing non-stop for what seems like an eternity and it just isn't fun...that's the problem.

Im not sure the right people exist - near me anyways - to make it fun.

I've literally had to force myself to go and pick up a guitar here lately. I've never in my life felt that way before.

I walk into my music room, look around and think that i just wish i could sell all of it today...and i probably will once I've fulfilled all my obligations.
 
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jtcnj said:
Do what heals you, brother Robert.
Good luck, be safe and happy; my best to you and your family.

We have all seen you push too hard and start to burn out or have health issues.
Some of us have chimed in at times to "take it easy, take it easy, dont let the sound of your own wheels make you crazy".
Maybe give the song a listen or 2; I know you dig some Eagles.

Takes some breaths of fresh air; enjoy the free open space on the bike, go out for a quiet lunch with the wife and even watch the hummingbirds for a bit.
Tap the brakes; back off the throttle, you dont need to rev on the red line all the time, do you?.

The music is inside of you; I think it is only a matter of time before you must answer that call.
It is part of what makes you, - you.
Purely speculation on my part, of course.

Make coming back to it a Fun Hobby - with a Little paid benefit - like a fill in without a long commitment.
Maybe this puts it all in a different perspective - where you dont feel you HAVE TO push so damn hard.

Either way, be well my friend,
John
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Thank you, Man...
 
Rob, I do know just a little bit from speaking with you. You are frustrated right now and rightfully so. You have had a lot on your shoulders over the last few years, and now the bottom has fallen out of the bag so to speak. Now is the time to take some time to prioritise and make a list of the things that matter the most to you, then beside it make a list of the things not so important. Now in the list of things that matter the most look them over. Now only take the ones that mean the most put a checkmark, the ones with no checkmark discard them. The list of the things not so important discard them. Now you are left with the things that matter the most to you. Now you have to set goals, and a time limit to achieve these goals. Set a reasonable time limit to complete, do one goal at a time until its followed through . Do not be pressured to take things on because of pressure from someone else wanting you to do something. Learn to say NO! Always remember FAMILY is #1 TOP PRIORITY. I know personally you can overcome this hardship you are in right now. Music has been a big part of your life. And it can still have a good portion of your life just in a SMALLER ROLE , and you can still achieve the most important parts you would like too. I consider you a friend, you have many talents, more than most will ever have, but that doesn't mean you have to pump your life fully into all of them. When all is said and done, leaving Music would be one of the worse decisions you could ever make. Slow down your pace, collect your thoughts and you will come out on the other side of this thing.
 
I know how you feel Robert. I hate it when I work on something and then have to do it all over. I've lost hard drives and had to rebuild my software. I've had web sites hacked, didn't have a recent back up and had to start over. Worked on modifications, had a part fail and had to start over. I have a few projects that I just didn't feel like doing over so they are still incomplete. I don't mind if I screw up and have to do it over, but when it's not my own doing, I hate having to do all that work over again. Although I have projects on the back burner, I still kept my friends and family. I hope you know that you are our friend and family. Although you may take a sabbatical from playing music, I sincerely hope that you do not give up on us. We'll be here for you whether you play or not, we're just that kind of group. Hell, I have not played my guitar in over a year due to circumstances and some life changing events for me, however I do still look forward to being a part of this community.
 
Robert... This is a lot of bull-poop that's affecting you. Maybe a type of depression would be a more appropriate term. You definitely have a lot of musical projects that are overwhelming you as you try to squeeze in your other life enjoyments like your wife and family, your car(s), motorcycles, home improvements, and whatever else you might be brewing. Playing guitars and music is deeply embedded in your soul. I'm afraid that without it, you're going to suffer even more. Scale back your musical commitments, but don't completely kill it!
 
Hey bro, not much too say that hasn't been said.

But , as your friends, if you are in pain, we are as well.

I'd selfishly miss your musical voice, and what it has to say.... but if that's what you need?

I think you have a lot of positivity being directed to you, don't let it float by. There's a lot of people that have you in their thoughts, and we got your back, ten toes right next to you brotha.
 
Robert Herndon said:
Saturday, i had a catastrophic failure of my PC which took out both internal hard drives. Everything is lost, except the bits i posted on Soundcloud. All the multitrack recordings, CD projects and song ideas - even projects i was working on at home for the studio for hire - vanished - and its critical now to finish them from scratch.

I felt like i probably should have been running an external hard drive, but you get busy, you put things off, its human nature i suppose.

At first, i was pissed, but then i began looking at this as a sign or an omen of sorts.

For a while, i been considering just walking away from music entirely, and this event is the push that i needed to do so.

Just a couple of weeks ago, my wife and i discussed me quitting and just drawing from my retirement early. The only thing that really kept me pushing along was the thought of someday completing my solo CD, but now i feel like the mountain is just too high.

I have committed myself to a project that will require the next few weeks of work (every night) to get it up off the ground, but i am going to tell the bandleader he needs to start auditioning replacement guitarists ASAP. I swear that if i had not given my word on this, i would walk away from it all tonight.

I've been feeling this way for a while actually, but, predictably, i just keep going, even if I'm not really getting anywhere, because that's what I've always done...and i guess im just tired of doing it.

TBTH, the only thing i really want to do now is just stay gone on the motorcycle. That has become my Redemption and my sense of freedom. Its infectious. Consuming and yet liberating. It's the only thing that hasn't drained energy from me.

I've enjoyed you folks a great deal and I apologize for being an opinonated poop shoot. I have made some great friends on here, but I have no doubt the music world will keep on turning.

Here's wishing you all the best...
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You ain't going no where - you know you like us ;)
But, seriously, man - if you leave people will miss you.
Now, if I were to leave no one would notice - lol...
 
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