Perspective:

[Inspector #20]

Hang in there Robert.
I’ve seen a number of my friends in situations where their children have chopped and changed who they want to live with, even against court orders, dependant in which parent let’s them do whatever they want.
Parents need to be parents, not a BFF, and when one chooses that over their real responsibility then it is incredibly difficult.
I hope and pray for you that at some point the light bulb goes on and your boy comes to a realisation and brings himself back to you in some way.

Happy belated birthday Robert (same date as my wonderful wife’s).
Taking some time out to relax, watch the world go by and talk about the future sounds like a pretty good way to celebrate your life so far.

Thank you for your kindness! All the best to you and your wife!!!!

 

[jtcnj]

Robert, I am sorry to hear of your family trouble.
Parenting is certainly the hardest task I have encountered in life - and the most important one.
Firm but fair discipline and a consistent set of rules is essential to a stable home environment, though children rarely appreciate it until later on, if ever.
Some uprisings of rebellion are almost a surety; but you know all this.
I hope things smooth out and get back on course sooner than later.

A belated Happy Birthday wish to you; Nov 9 is my son's birthday too.
At 23 now we are still struggling to help him overcome his social awkwardness and reclusive behavior.

 

[Inspector #20]

Robert, I am sorry to hear of your family trouble.
Parenting is certainly the hardest task I have encountered in life - and the most important one.
Firm but fair discipline and a consistent set of rules is essential to a stable home environment, though children rarely appreciate it until later on, if ever.
Some uprisings of rebellion are almost a surety; but you know all this.
I hope things smooth out and get back on course sooner than later.

A belated Happy Birthday wish to you; Nov 9 is my son's birthday too.
At 23 now we are still struggling to help him overcome his social awkwardness and reclusive behavior.

Thank you, Brother...I can really identify with your last line of text....