No Photo but my Dad died today

Don O said:
Mark, my dad had a similar no suffering end. He and one of my sisters went out to dinner, then they went back to his house. He went into the bathroom and when he came out he had a massive heart attack and died in his own home. Not so great for my sister but dad passed peacefully in his own home. He had asked me long ago that if he ever had to be hooked up to a a machine to live would I pull the plug for him. Glad it never came to that.
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I unfortunately did have to decide to pull the plug on my father in 1987 and again for my mother in 2009. It is never an easy decision, however I have asked my wife to not allow them to keep me alive on machines. When it's my time to go, I'm outta here.
 
chilipeppermaniac said:
Mom's passing was rough emotionally. Dad's I am more chill......... guess it is because the worst is over.
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Kinda the same for me Mark. Mom passed in 2001. Dad 2014. Both cancer. Mom was harder on me as well.... not that Dad wasn't. Can't really explain it. With Mom, she was diagnosed with the cancer end of August. Oct 4 she died. Oddly, I think I started the grieving process in August so when she actually passed.... while yes, it was a tough day, I feel there was relief that it was over. Relief for her. When morphine doesn't take away the pain anymore..... Cancer sucks!!! Dad didn't even know he had cancer. Went to doctor for something else. Found cancer in the process. About the same time he fell, while in the hospital getting the biopsy. Shattered one arm since as it turned out cancer was in his bones. He never came home. Couple weeks it was over.

As for doing all you are doing settling the estate. That fell on my younger brother. Just the two of us and he still lived in the same town as Mom and Dad. Just after Mom died my wife and I moved 200 miles east chasing a job.... mine. So made total sense my brother got that headache.
 
I went down to Florida to see my Mom for Mother's day and the trip takes me right by the National cemetery in Bushnell where my Dad is buried. As I drove by the exit I said hello to him, but so far I haven't been able to bring myself to stop and actually go find is grave site. I just think it's really weird, especially since he was so religious. I don't know, it's been well over a year now and I still have a hard time with it sometimes...especially with Fathers day coming. ... we never even got along really, but I still miss him.
 
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chilipeppermaniac said:
For all his warts, I did my best to love and provide the care needed for my dad.
After a short couple days in the hospital, my dad's heart stopped beating suddenly today and he passed at 12:40 PM.

The next few weeks/ half a year will be interesting as I finalized my mom's estate about a month ago, and now it will be dad's turn.
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I did not read that earlier.

My sincere condolences Mark
 
Boubou said:
I am a little late but my sympathies a best wishes to you and your family
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LiveeviL2000 said:
Oh damn. I missed this somehow.
My condolences to you and your family. I seriously thought you went to England on vacation.
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Bob the builder said:
Just found this thread
Really sorry about your dad
Lots of us here been through this + we all know it sux
I hope you're doing ok
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Thanks fellas.

Yup, Liveevil2000, in England on vacation. Once home, I resume settling things estate wise. Dang bureau of Statistics Vital records taking forever to receive and process death certificates. It is 2 months n 4 days and still no word that they received my papers and check.
 
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