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Inspector #20

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We decided to buy a new house with some extra room. The amount of legal paperwork, between my 2008 purchase and this 2017 purchase, is simply mind boggling.

I am so eager to start recording again. I miss this aspect of music more than anything else, because these recordings live forever.

I was very hurt recently when my 9 year old son announced he wanted to live with his biological mother - the one who severely beat him in 2014 - a beating so severe, her live in boyfriend (and accomplice to the attack) committed suicide to avoid a prison sentence.

I'm a very affectionate dad. I love my kids and I try hard to be sure they know it. Sometimes, I keep him home from school just so we can hang out and go for walks.

Sometimes, your very best just isn't good enough I suppose...

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Congratulations! That place looks very friendly. Keeping your kids home is so very very cool. They will learn more on days with a loving father than a week in school. My dad did just that and I got so much out of those days. I did the same with my son. He always talks about the times we built things together. I truly hope you all will be happy in your new home. You are a good man and a great father Robert.
 
Your son feels your love and like my son they say hurtful things. They regret it but never turn back to say " I'm sorry" those words will never happen but you know they want to take them back if they could. Kids love to piss us off and they are too young to understand the pain. You are doing great Robert.
 
Easy for me to say at this distance but TRY to focus on the great things happening such as your new house and that Ford on the drive.
Kids grow to be young adults so very fast and then see the world for what it is. I figure from your comments he'll be back possibly sooner than you think.
 
I give my houses away with the help of the courts. Been two very nice city houses. Miss lucky number one got great summer house, lake front property. My girl friend took over my New York City apartment. Her mother lives there and I am welcome of course. I don't need it because it over looks Crntral Park. I bought years ago and good memories might make me happy. Three of us own the Paris Apartment. Some day I might get my own room.
 
Robert Herndon said:
Well....I am guessing that remains to be seen.
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I know all about the courts. A child's safety should never ever be a guess or a prayer. The whole thing should never be let's wait and see. I am very upset and there should be no question that a stable parent and a stable home is best for the child. Robert I am so sorry you have to live with this fear and worry. I wish I could do something in these situations. I see horrible things in the ER.
 
kevinpaul said:
I know all about the courts. A child's safety should never ever be a guess or a prayer. The whole thing should never be let's wait and see. I am very upset and there should be no question that a stable parent and a stable home is best for the child. Robert I am so sorry you have to live with this fear and worry. I wish I could do something in these situations. I see horrible things in the ER.
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I agree...
 
Robert, I'm very sorry that you are going through this. A 9 year old has neither the maturity nor the wisdom to be deciding on with whom he/she want to live.
Your son may be simply trying to resolve feelings of maternal abandonment/rejection/abuse by reconnecting with the mother. As much as it may hurt,
please understand that he is in no way rejecting you. Since you are the only "constant" in his life, he's focusing only on his need for mother's acceptance, which
will never come. His safety is the sole issue here. I hope that you keep him from going back into her cycle of abuse.
 
Goldmember said:
Robert, I'm very sorry that you are going through this. A 9 year old has neither the maturity nor the wisdom to be deciding on with whom he/she want to live.
Your son may be simply trying to resolve feelings of maternal abandonment/rejection/abuse by reconnecting with the mother. As much as it may hurt,
please understand that he is in no way rejecting you. Since you are the only "constant" in his life, he's focusing only on his need for mother's acceptance, which
will never come. His safety is the sole issue here. I hope that you keep him from going back into her cycle of abuse.
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I believe you are correct. Adrian knows more about this situation than I want to post publicly, but it's a very difficult situation to be in...
 
gasket said:
Easy for me to say at this distance but TRY to focus on the great things happening such as your new house and that Ford on the drive.
Kids grow to be young adults so very fast and then see the world for what it is. I figure from your comments he'll be back possibly sooner than you think.
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Got moved in. Such a mystery finding everything.... :-)

I seem to have more guitars than I originally realized!!!!! Somehow, I moved (10) of them to the new house!!!

Have to open up boxes and figure out which one's are which later....
 
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