CoyotesGator
Ambassador of Reptilian Rum Bar Affairs
Sincerest condolences brother.
RIP to my Friend who was found in a PA Lake after missing 3 weeks ( continuation from a post elsewhere)
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chilipeppermaniac
Ambassador of Decibels
Condolences Mark. Sadness.
Thank you bdon, this makes a 2nd dear one and a couple acquaintances from school days for me this year.
I too lost a life-long to suicide recently. A good bud, known since I was 11-12, that dedicated his life to helping others. He was a first responder since he was able to be. From on call fire, to paramedic...he was our boy scout...always prepared.
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chilipeppermaniac
Ambassador of Decibels
Hard to fathom for sure. Bdon. May you do like I have done since losing my first of 3 friends from ages 17-21 when I was in my college years.
Take as many good parts of them inside you, then give it away to as many people as you run across in life. This way their life carries on for generations to come, even when they had breathed their last.
Take as many good parts of them inside you, then give it away to as many people as you run across in life. This way their life carries on for generations to come, even when they had breathed their last.
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chilipeppermaniac
Ambassador of Decibels
Thank you Chris, Same here, at least the ones I know of. 3 is 3 too many. The natural causes and accidental ones are hard enough.
Clockworkmike
Ambassador of STACKS in WV SHACKS
Very sorry once again to hear that dude, very tragic situation and ending
Daily, my friend....I do it daily. I’m here to help, if I can....every day, I do what I can to help people see this world a little more clearly. Though I’m not doing exactly what he did, I feel that I’m still making a contribution in the best way I can. I do not possess the skills that he did...
Clockworkmike
Ambassador of STACKS in WV SHACKS
Very sorry for your loss as well my friend
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chilipeppermaniac
Ambassador of Decibels
Bdon, you posses the best skill of his. Goodness and friendship.
So sorry to have learned of the loss of your friend Mark
As said above me keep his life and times in the memory bank !!
Because we celebrate his life and not the passing part.
Mitch
As said above me keep his life and times in the memory bank !!
Because we celebrate his life and not the passing part.
Mitch
As do you sir! As do you!
BFT Gibson
Ambassador of Originality
Sorry for your loss. Never easy
Very sad to hear about this....sincere condolences....
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chilipeppermaniac
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thanks strap man. I dont think covid 2020 f'd my friend's head up as much as one might presume.
However, from talking with a former co worker lady friend of his, she seemed to think a combination of aging limitations/ health concerns, history of loss of relationships with former wives, his views and the election outcome, plus his intimate knowledge of China ( from working there 5 years) and how certain factions of the USA are now closer to Communist Chinese than Constitution following Patriots, might have hastened an irrational sense of peril and doom.
If that doesn't take my breath away at typing that while wondering just what the heck was the major malfunction in his brain ( which was of an exceptionally high IQ) I don't know what will. Hard to imagine just WTF it took. Darnit.
As a point of reference too. Heath, my last friend who killed himself maybe 9+ years ago, at least sort of reached out, but I was unaware he was doing so, based on his message.
I was working in Bel Air Md on a front entry door porch roof addition that day and he called that afternoon. I checked my voicemail and he said, He was just calling to see whats up and to say "thanks for being my friend."
I did not call him back right away or anything as we were working. After work, the homeowner( my friend Steve) and his daughter and I, went to a Chinese buffet to have dinner. This was maybe 3-5 hours after the voicemail. I get a call while eating from Steve's brother in law who was on a vacation out west. He asked if I could ride by Heath's house cuz he was worried about him. That is when he told me Heath called him too but as they were in remote areas in the West, no signal, he did not get the message till later. The concern came because Heath said to him Thanks for HAVING BEEN my friend. This sure is different than the message I got of thanks for being my friend.
I say thanks to you guys all the time for being my friend. If I said the for Having BEEN..., you guys would definitely know the difference.
Also to let you know update. I do appreciate all your guys sympathies and I extend mine to all here such as Bdon, and Sp8 who have lost friends to suicide.
That is a whole lot more ominous, and sadly it proved to be so. Mr Heath shot himself to death in the garage before his family or I could get there.
However, from talking with a former co worker lady friend of his, she seemed to think a combination of aging limitations/ health concerns, history of loss of relationships with former wives, his views and the election outcome, plus his intimate knowledge of China ( from working there 5 years) and how certain factions of the USA are now closer to Communist Chinese than Constitution following Patriots, might have hastened an irrational sense of peril and doom.
If that doesn't take my breath away at typing that while wondering just what the heck was the major malfunction in his brain ( which was of an exceptionally high IQ) I don't know what will. Hard to imagine just WTF it took. Darnit.
As a point of reference too. Heath, my last friend who killed himself maybe 9+ years ago, at least sort of reached out, but I was unaware he was doing so, based on his message.
I was working in Bel Air Md on a front entry door porch roof addition that day and he called that afternoon. I checked my voicemail and he said, He was just calling to see whats up and to say "thanks for being my friend."
I did not call him back right away or anything as we were working. After work, the homeowner( my friend Steve) and his daughter and I, went to a Chinese buffet to have dinner. This was maybe 3-5 hours after the voicemail. I get a call while eating from Steve's brother in law who was on a vacation out west. He asked if I could ride by Heath's house cuz he was worried about him. That is when he told me Heath called him too but as they were in remote areas in the West, no signal, he did not get the message till later. The concern came because Heath said to him Thanks for HAVING BEEN my friend. This sure is different than the message I got of thanks for being my friend.
I say thanks to you guys all the time for being my friend. If I said the for Having BEEN..., you guys would definitely know the difference.
Also to let you know update. I do appreciate all your guys sympathies and I extend mine to all here such as Bdon, and Sp8 who have lost friends to suicide.
That is a whole lot more ominous, and sadly it proved to be so. Mr Heath shot himself to death in the garage before his family or I could get there.
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chilipeppermaniac
Ambassador of Decibels
Thanks JT, I am in a pretty good state of mind from cathartic endeavors like posting here and all your guy's encouragements.
It will likely hit me in the gut a few times in the next few weeks to come and then over the beginning of 2021. But, having had the experience of losing at least 12-15 dear friends since I first lost my buddy Richard when I was 18, I have a well established frame of reference and coping skills under my belt.
Life goes on, and one day it will be my turn to breathe my last. Bless everyone till that day, and it will be a worthy life.
It will likely hit me in the gut a few times in the next few weeks to come and then over the beginning of 2021. But, having had the experience of losing at least 12-15 dear friends since I first lost my buddy Richard when I was 18, I have a well established frame of reference and coping skills under my belt.
Life goes on, and one day it will be my turn to breathe my last. Bless everyone till that day, and it will be a worthy life.