Your thoughts on this.

[C-Grin]

Does it matter to you how a guitar comes to you or who it came from?
I have a family member ( wife’s mother’s husband) who has passed. He and I did not get along too well, and not to speak poorly of the dead but I struggle to find a positive I can find to say about him.
But he did have a Les Paul standard, barely used, that my mother in law wants to give to me. But I don’t really want it, because it was his. Not only that I am faced with supplementing my mother in law who has in the last 30 or so years burned through literally millions of dollars and is broke.

So question, is this a ridiculous thought? I’m having a hard time keeping perspective and not feeling very negative about the guitar itself. And the other stuff too.

 

[Thatbastarddon]

Does it matter to you how a guitar comes to you or who it came from?
I have a family member ( wife’s mother’s husband) who has passed. He and I did not get along too well, and not to speak poorly of the dead but I struggle to find a positive I can find to say about him.
But he did have a Les Paul standard, barely used, that my mother in law wants to give to me. But I don’t really want it, because it was his. Not only that I am faced with supplementing my mother in law who has in the last 30 or so years burned through literally millions of dollars and is broke.

So question, is this a ridiculous thought? I’m having a hard time keeping perspective and not feeling very negative about the guitar itself. And the other stuff too.

Nope. Wouldn’t touch it with a ten foot pole. Couldn’t look at it…couldn’t sell it( without social repercussions )…no thank you.

 

[fitz]

I've heard you don't choose a guitar - it chooses you.
Perhaps it's been trying to find you for a long time?

In all seriousness, does the guitar mean anything to anyone else?
If you think it would be a source of continuing negative emotions for anyone else, just politely pass on the offer.

If this is just between you, the guitar, and its former custodian, I'd suggest at least playing it once or twice and see what happens.
Like an abandoned pet at the shelter, maybe the guitar needs your love.

 

[Don O]

I’d take one for the team and store it for ya :dood: .

Sorry for your family loss.

 

[LiveeviL2000]

I can understand what you are feeling. Sentimentality in a negative sense can be a powerful thing.
I am not a sentimental person and objects or places hold virtually no meaning to me. A guitar is a guitar, no matter who owned it. I would look at it for what it is. Emotional attachment would not figure into the equation.
IF and only IF I really disliked a person, I would accept the guitar, then hold the Jersey Bird in the air with a smile on my face everytime I played it.

Not everyone is like that.
Ask yourself one question, "will this guitar keep bringing feelings of disdain back?" if yes, then pass. Playing a guitar should be enjoyable.

 

[C-Grin]

Nope. Wouldn’t touch it with a ten foot pole. Couldn’t look at it…couldn’t sell it( without social repercussions )…no thank you.

I've heard you don't choose a guitar - it chooses you.
Perhaps it's been trying to find you for a long time?

In all seriousness, does the guitar mean anything to anyone else?
If you think it would be a source of continuing negative emotions for anyone else, just politely pass on the offer.

If this is just between you, the guitar, and its former custodian, I'd suggest at least playing it once or twice and see what happens.
Like an abandoned pet at the shelter, maybe the guitar needs your love.

Thanks for the input but also as most family dynamics are, this is more complex. Anything that comes from the MIL has strings attached. Even though we have done a lot and spent many thousands of dollars already the MIL somehow feels she has given us more than we could repay. Her thoughts are completely fabricated. Just don’t want to deal with it. But we are flying to phoenix tomorrow (again) the wife went down the day after thanksgiving. Anyone near Phoenix want to buy a Les Paul?

 

[LiveeviL2000]

Thanks for the input but also as most family dynamics are, this is more complex. Anything that comes from the MIL has strings attached. Even though we have done a lot and spent many thousands of dollars already the MIL somehow feels she has given us more than we could repay. Her thoughts are completely fabricated. Just don’t want to deal with it. But we are flying to phoenix tomorrow (again) the wife went down the day after thanksgiving. Anyone near Phoenix want to buy a Les Paul?

@Headache lives near there I think. He seems to always be looking for a new stallion for his corral.

 

[C-Grin]

I can understand what you are feeling. Sentimentality in a negative sense can be a powerful thing.
I am not a sentimental person and objects or places hold virtually no meaning to me. A guitar is a guitar, no matter who owned it. I would look at it for what it is. Emotional attachment would not figure into the equation.
IF and only IF I really disliked a person, I would accept the guitar, then hold the Jersey Bird in the air with a smile on my face everytime I played it.

Not everyone is like that.
Ask yourself one question, "will this guitar keep bringing feelings of disdain back?" if yes, then pass. Playing a guitar should be enjoyable.

Appreciate the input. How something came to me is important to me. The circumstances of how things end up on the market is also important to me. I will not buy from a pawn shop as I know most all things there were either stolen or sold in drug induced desperation. Don’t want the negative vibe that goes with it. Ask me how I know . But that’s just me.

 

[fitz]

Anything that comes from the MIL has strings attached.

Ok then...

Nope. Wouldn’t touch it with a ten foot pole

 

[LiveeviL2000]

Appreciate the input. How something came to me is important to me. The circumstances of how things end up on the market is also important to me. I will not buy from a pawn shop as I know most all things there were either stolen or sold in drug induced desperation. Don’t want the negative vibe that goes with it. Ask me how I know . But that’s just me.

totally get it.

 

[C-Grin]

@Headache lives near there I think. He seems to always be looking for a new stallion for his corral.

Hey Headache I’ll meet you at slide rock state park.

 

[BFT Gibson]

Me, thoughts ?

the door just opened to mend the relationship !!

I would prob take the guitar & if you are still in the helping out phase and finances are invloved down the line with MIL, There is some relief money available when needed.

 

[syscokid]

Maybe I’m getting too personal, but what does the wife have to say?

 

[C-Grin]

Me, thoughts ?

the door just opened to mend the relationship !!

I would prob take the guitar & if you are still in the helping out phase and finances are invloved down the line with MIL, There is some relief money available when needed.

I hear you and appreciate the mending the relationship factor, but the mending would be one sided. She is especially crafty for 83 and there is always an angle. I am sure I will either sell it and dole the money back to her or just buy it from her and then Probably just sell it.

 

[C-Grin]

Maybe I’m getting too personal, but what does the wife have to say?

Specifically about the guitar? She says if I don’t want it then sell it and dole the money back to her mom. She wants to help her mom, but wise to what she is.

 

[Session 5]

Thanks for the input but also as most family dynamics are, this is more complex. Anything that comes from the MIL has strings attached. Even though we have done a lot and spent many thousands of dollars already the MIL somehow feels she has given us more than we could repay. Her thoughts are completely fabricated. Just don’t want to deal with it. But we are flying to phoenix tomorrow (again) the wife went down the day after thanksgiving. Anyone near Phoenix want to buy a Les Paul?

I would definitely sell it. Get rid of it, no use in having ties with something, that represented poor thoughts.

 

[67plexi]

I would play the guitar first before making a final decision

 

[C-Grin]

I would definitely sell it. Get rid of it, no use in having ties with something, that represented poor thoughts.

I apprecieate the input my friend.

I would play the guitar first before making a final decision

On this point of course I understand where you are coming from. But it's hard to really get enough back story about the situation in a few posts. The damn thing has already been held over my head and I said I didn't want it going back a few years now. Of course all of this may be moot as my brother in law will be showing up in Arizona also to make sure we are not taking anything he wants ( and I don't want anything ) . So it's possible he will demand it since she wants to give it to me, I might need bail money in Mesa tomorrow night.

 

[67plexi]

I get it my Ex wife's grandfather offered me a skyscraper I would have been set for life
I would have to move Providence RI and the rest family was messed up the last time I ran into my Ex she said my moms insane
told her the branch doesn't fall to far from the tree.

 

[Ramo]

Send it to me no hard feelings i wont feel bad at all…. then ill sell it and buy Jacksons